Monday, 30 May 2016

The joys of living with a boy....

There are many things I would change about my home if I were still single and living on my own. Some are very clich├ęd: I'd have fairy lights and crisp white bedding with accents of pink in my bedroom. My sofa would be a mass of comfy cushions, beautiful coffee table books and I'd like to say I'd have vases of freshly cut flowers everywhere but with my feline vase killer companion that just would not work! Of course my fridge would be home to all things vegetable and fruit based (and could be classed as a fruit extract right?) and in the kitchen I'd have the coffee machine, kettle and toaster of dreams (aka hideously expensive and I'd be too scared to use them!)

Other solo living dreams are more practical - I would love to wake up in the morning to the smell of coffee by having a coffee machine by the bed, I'd have a TV in the bedroom so I could watch the news/YouTube while getting dressed - with all the lights on!!

Those who know me know I do adore my husband, but while he works away for a fortnight at a time every few months I drift into a routine that I love - sleeping with the curtains open so the natural morning light wakes me (I get up on average at least 90 minutes before he does each morning and he is not a fan of the morning light!) I drink coffee in bed of a morning while waking up, I listen to music or a podcast while doing my make up and getting dressed - all things that would be unfair on the sleeping husband to be subjected to on the daily...

Being a couple that compromises we do have white bedding now (finally) but I'd love to add an accent of flower print or bright colours, alas this is a step too far for Mr P! Of course I wouldn't give him up in exchange for these things BUT if I can't talk about my love for frivolous items like this in my corner of the internet what is the point of having a blog?

Some of these ideas I have created within our spare room - turning it into a little girlie haven with cute lights, ornaments and books - it's just a shame that it ends up being a dumping ground for all things meaning it often is an unsable space...time to tackle that today before Mr P returns so I can keep the girlie sanctuary going.

Hope you all have a space you can escape to within your home....or am I alone in coveting an area that is all mine?


Sunday, 31 January 2016

Starting Over...

Well hello there (if anyone is there...) it's been a mighty long time since I blogged here at Louloudorset and I'm not entirely sure why.

Partly life got very busy with the usual work and life demands, but I think mainly I just fell out of love with blogging. I didn't have anything I particularly wanted to say. And I definitely developed a strange obsession with YouTube (I do love a good "What's in my bag" video!) For a while now I've been thinking about my teeny tiny corner of the internet and thinking could I start again? Refreshed and with a new motivation could I start blogging about things I feel passionate about again? And if I did, what would those things be?

Well, I guess it is important to say I am 19 months away from hitting 40 (!) not entirely sure how that is looming so quickly as I'm sure I was only 30 a mere matter of minutes ago. And while I'm not overly phased (most of the time) about the number I am finding myself wondering if there is anyone else like me out there as I seem to be a bit of an anomaly...

I am a 38 year old woman who is very happily married, obsessed with her cat and infertile. Not in a gut wrenching depressive wailing way, in a it's just part of our life now way. Most of the time I feel incredibly blessed; I have an amazing husband, a great job, lovely friends and I get to sleep in on weekends. Occasionally I feel angry about it. And on a few instances, out of the blue, I have had a 5 minute emotional meltdown, that goes as quickly as it arrives. I am not jealous of friends who are on the parenting journey but overjoyed for them, especially when some have faced struggles themselves.

So who am I now? I love Filofax planners, am on my first month of a capsule wardrobe challenge (which I am loving by the way) am more than partial to a glass (bottle) of Prosecco or Rose and I am always at some stage of fitness kick/healthy eating regime/totally fallen of the wagon and eating all the cake scenario! With a passion for handbags, scarves and all things fashion when it comes to classic style updates I'm just your average woman trying to find a foundation that not only matches your skintone but also makes you look 10 years younger and can be applied at 6.30am while half asleep but still last all day!

I guess what I'm trying to say is that the bit I find hard is that there don't appear to be many other women like me out there, or at least I've not managed to find ones that are open and writing about it on the internet.

As an avid blog reader I follow a lot of fashion blogs; Fashion Mum of 40, Does My Bum Look 40, and My Midlife Fashion are 3 of my favourites but all of these ladies are mums. Now obviously there's nothing wrong with this and the majority of what they write about is fashion related which I'm totally on board with. It just got me thinking, surely there must be other child free women out there flanneling on on the internet, and if not, why not?

So maybe (in a very long winded way) what I'm saying is that there could be a niche for someone like me to have a lifestyle blog that covers the alternative reality of being happy without a posse of children in tow. I know I'd love to find some more ladies like me so if I jump first maybe I'll find them?

Here's to 2016 and a fresh start, say hello to LoulouDorset, Lifestyle blog....